A good leader sets direction for the team, but doesn’t dismiss the voices of those following him.
Recognize that you must gain her trust before you get her submission, and if you do something to betray her trust, you can’t be upset at her lack of desire to submit at that point. However, if you find a good man, and he shows the ability to be a good leader, let him lead.
Stop saying how much you “don’t need a man” because this doesn’t impress anyone and it’s more likely to keep you from having a good one.
When a man enters your life, he’ll see what you have going on, your intelligence and your lifestyle.
It ties in historically with the above issues with White women traditionally being painted as more docile and Black women having to fill male roles that White women just haven’t had to fill. However, what about the man who does not have good leadership skills, the man, who if followed, could lead a woman astray, the man who is weak-minded and weak-willed, the man who is not a good man?
These same men dated a few Black women but looked for the negative stereotypes in them, and thus did not respect them, and thus did not get the submission he wanted.Because, as a people who have historically received so much hatred, we, Black women and men, so desperately deserve love and respect.Here are the common issues Black men mention as to why they decide to not date Black women, where the issues stem from and how both sides can own up and fix them.It’s another ugly stereotype, and there are plenty of successful, educated, self-motivated Black women out there. See.” Unfortunately, however, this comes off to men as not wanting a man at all.Some of these women use “I don’t need a man” to say: “Hey, we’re not all like that. You’re successful, stable and have enough self-love that you don’t need a man, but you want one, right?