Agreeing to “be exclusive” is a discussion you’ll have at some stage if things are progressing well.
American girls are much less used to guys being gentlemen — opening the door for the lady, waiting for her to sit before you sit, etc.
An American girl giving you her phone number means she is considering going out with you. With an Italian girl, you will work hard just to get her phone number. The fact that she says no the first time doesn’t mean she can’t go out or doesn’t want to. Now, the third time she says no, she means it (and don’t insist). Italian guys take the same amount of time to get ready as American girls.
It doesn’t take long to get — after all, it’s her number, not a wedding ring. Right away, she wants to have an idea of how hard you are going to work to get her attention. On the one hand, fashion, elegance, and taste are embedded in the Italian culture, so Italian guys don’t even notice they have this going for them.
When he eventually confessed to wanting to sire a football team, his wife announced that she was getting her tubes tied.
So, while an early, frank discussion may seem odd and intense to a Brit, it could stave off a relationship catastrophe later on.